Are your beliefs about alcohol making you miserable? Lucy talks about how unhappy she was, when she first stopped drinking.
The way she saw it,
“I was different now. I was weird, a failure – a social outcast”
There were no positives for drinking less
She could n’t see any of the positives of reducing her drinking. She’d grown up in a culture that adored alcohol, so not participating in that culture was really hard.
She had decided not to drink at all as she could never have just one or two. But she really wanted to drink. She saw it a part of a fun and happy life. Yes, there were health gains, but who wants to live longer if life is so rotten?
Lucy’s beliefs about alcohol were making her miserable
The problem lay in Lucy’s beliefs about alcohol. She believed
1) Alcohol makes you attractive
2) Alcohol makes you successful
3) Alcohol makes you cool
4) Alcohol provides you with a better social life
5) Alcohol transforms you into a rebel
6) Alcohol helps you deal with stress
Lucy’s beliefs about alcohol were wrong
When you look at each of Lucy’s beliefs you can see they are actually incorrect. Lucy realised they were lies. For example
- Alcohol does not make you more attractive. In fact who has n’t been turned off by a drunken approach?
- Alcohol is much more likely to get in the way of your success. Whether it’s about being a successful parent (who needs a hangover when dealing with an energetic toddler or driving the teenager to GAA practise.) Or an important early morning business meeting when you’re tired because you stayed up drinking.
A better social life?
You can argue that in Ireland, social life does revolve around the pub. If you don’t drink it’s get absolutely boring listening to other drunken conversations. But do you really want your social life to revolve around drunken conversations? There are other options, which we’ve written about here
What are your beliefs about alcohol?
So if you’re going to be in control of your drinking, it’s really important to be aware of your beliefs about alcohol and see if they are true. Writing these down can be really helpful. You might also find our course here useful in identifying your pros and cons of drinking.
Lucy’s full post is well worth reading and can be seen here .They also have a really nice range of clothing and goods for people who want to show they are in control of their drinking. Click here for their shop.