Filling the bottle – shaped hole

 BottleFilling the bottle-shaped hole is a phenomenon to which everyone who quits drinking will almost certainly relate; all those hours of spare time during which we are no longer numbing our every sense demand to be filled with other things. But just how do you go about choosing what to do with your new found and hard-won free hours, and how can you motivate yourself to get started in pursuing a new activity?


What are the challenges people face in filling a bottle- shaped hole?

  •  Many people find change unsettling.
  • There are suddenly acres of time to fill (drinking both uses and wastes time).
  • Many people worry that they will appear boring when they cut out alcohol – and also that they will no   longer enjoy the things they used to love doing when drinking.
  •  Drinking heavily for a sustained period usually results in a loss of confidence.
  •  The seemingly endless possibilities that open up can appear exciting yet scary.
  •  Some people may feel frozen, stuck or overwhelmed by decision-making.


 Give yourself permission…

Before you can begin to fill that bottle-shaped hole, it’s essential that you give yourself permission to truly nurture & look after YOU. A good way to begin filling your time is to get into the habit of enjoying a pampering night – treat yourself, relax, and start dreaming up ideas for your new alcohol-free lifestyle…

 1.Reconnect with friends, make new ones, and adopt a social life of your choosing.
 2.Revisit your career. Is it time for a change? You could take on new challenges e.g. a  study   programme.
 3.Start a home business or perhaps begin writing a blog.
 4.Assess your relationship or even find a new partner with the same values as you.
 5.Check out your local newspaper to find out what’s on in your area; walking, crafting, book groups, online forums, talks, short courses – you could even consider starting your own group.
 6.Volunteer locally.


You’re likely to have more energy

Stopping drinking WILL involve making other changes to your life – you’ll have more energy as well as time, and you probably won’t want to socialise as much with heavy drinkers. Becoming alcohol-free equates to an opportunity for personal growth. Who knows what interests you will develop, or where they will lead you? When I quit drinking, I viewed sobriety as the start of an exciting new chapter in my life – and I’ve never looked back.


Where will your decision to become alcohol-free take you…?


Editor’s Note :

This is a really important area and Lucy has made some great suggestions. We’re putting together Irish details on alcohol free  activities and we’ll publish this online. Don’t forget to sign up for our emails so you know when it becomes available.

This post was written by Lucy Rocca

Lucy is the founder of Soberistas. She launched the website in November 2012 after closing the door on a 20-year-long stint of binge drinking. She is Soberistas’ editor, and has written four books on the subject of women and alcohol (The Sober Revolution, Your 6 Week Plan (co-authored with Sarah Turner), Glass Half Full and How to Lead a Happier, Healthier and Alcohol-Free Life). Lucy lives in Sheffield, South Yorkshire.

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