Mistakes are seen as learning
I decide to continue to not drink and extend my challenge to 365 days and yes I did slip up, make mistakes, but I got up and dusted myself off again. I realised that making mistakes was normal and were a great way to learn more about myself and also how to safeguard myself from future blowouts. I became obsessed with all things alcohol free.
I did not drink. I did n’t need it
I listened to podcasts, read as much quit lit as I could get my hands on. This newfound freedom and perspective on life had given me real zeal to absorb more information and strengthen my resolve. Stopping drinking was not a chore it was a revelation. I attended many social occasions and didn’t need to drink. I began to realise that for the first time, alcohol was unnecessary to socialise. In fact my confidence in myself continued to grow.
I’m still at it
I’m still at it now. I have joined other sites such as Soberful which is run by two addiction specialists Veronica Valli and Chip Somers who have years of combined experience and were instrumental in getting Russell Brand sober. The insights they have to addiction are extremely interesting and insightful and have a weekly podcast that I listen to.
Another is Soberistas a website started by single mum Lucy Rocca after she gave up drinking and wanted to create a safe place to meet likeminded people with the shared interest of stopping alcohol.
I find a sense of community
My journey continues. I recently started attending AA. I realise that it’s not for everybody but with my newfound confidence and willingness to try things with an open mind. I take what I agree with and leave the rest and have been finding a sense of community in it.
I can never say I will not drink again, it’s a sneaky and insidious drug and I will continue to work on my sobriety and the lease of life it has given me.
What do I think of alcohol now?
What do I think of alcohol now? I think it just a socially acceptable drug. We have been programmed to think that alcohol is the answer to life’s problems and society has been hoodwinked by the drinks industry for too long.
Go for it, it may change your life
It’s a nasty destructive poison that ruins people’s physical and mental health. Taking that leap of faith and giving up the sauce has got to be one of the best decisions I have ever made. I don’t know what the future holds but for me I will looking forward to it alcohol free. If you’re curious to take a break from alcohol. Go for it – it may just change your life.
Mc D approach to AA is spot on. He’s used it to find a sense of community and people he has something in common with. He just takes what he agrees with. He does not accept the AA view, that if he fails it’s him that fails. He does not blame himself, but sees drinking when he does not want to as an opportunity to learn. For a review of AA see here
If you would like a different type of community try Smart Recovery who focus on not drinking but do not refer to a higher power.