Your friend is getting married soon and she’s wondering if an alcohol free hen party is a good idea. She’s struggling with alcohol and trying to stay off the booze until after the wedding. She’s dreading the hen party as she’s worried she will drink and make a fool of herself. You know that a hen party free from alcohol would avoid potential problems.
Alcohol free may be essential
The bride to be may be very stressed out, so have a discussion with her to agree if an alcohol free hen party is a good idea. Let her know, you will keep her informed, discussing all suggestions and ideas with her.
Plan, Plan, Plan
A person close to the bride to be, should meet with her privately to find out the triggers that are likely to cause her to drink. Triggers are things such as smells, activities, people that might cause a problem. Find out more about triggers here.
Know the triggers
Once you know what the bride’s triggers are you can plan to avoid them. Certain people may cause a lot of anxiety and stress to the bride so it might be worthwhile chatting to these people to avoid problems or even leave them off the list entirely.
Avoid stress and anxiety
Planning the hen party well in advance can help reduce stress and anxiety. Stress and anxiety are common triggers for drinking too much, so plan activities that encourage relaxation. Understanding what activities the bride and friends are will enjoy is important.
Decide what you’re telling the guests
Agreeing what the bride will say about her drinking is important. Is she confident enough to simply state this is an alcohol free hen party as she’s not drinking?
Or is a cover story easier? Perhaps the bride is taking metronidazoleA+ for bacterial vaginosis which means she can’t drink. This cover story can also be great for a laugh!
Or perhaps it’s a hen party where as well as having fun, all monies saved by not drinking will go to a charity of the Bride’s choice.
The key is to let all the guests know what to expect in advance of the party and making sure they’re ok with the format.
Or maybe a hen party with a difference ?
You can even take it a step further, by combining the hen party with doing something rewarding and helping people.
For example Access Earth is a free online platform offering mobility information for anyone who needs it. e.g which restaurants have wheelchair access. The hen party guests can help feed into the data this platform provides. Guests are broken into teams and set loose to try to win the top spot on the leader-board, by mapping as many places as possible.
Or you can help clean up the coast, paint in a hospital or take part in a dragon board race. More details of lots of different activities here.
Make sure hen party attendees are on board
Some people may complain so this is why being clear on the agreed message is vital.
If the Bride has given permission, explain the Bride is trying to stay off alcohol. She will find it much more difficult not to drink if other people are drinking.
If the friends still keep complaining make it clear that if people can’t drink for one event, to support their friend, then it is sending a message they do not value the friendship. Perhaps it would be better if they did not attend?
After all if a friendship is only good in alcohol is it a real friendship? Lucy found many of her friendships were based on alcohol and were toxic.
Alcohol free drinks?
If money is available and it does not bother the bride you may be able to have a selection of alcohol free drinks available, including mocktails. You can find out more about alcohol free drinks here.
Even more party ideas
- An old-fashioned sleepover, complete with facials, manicures, pedicures, films , and popcorn. Make sure the bride gets a good night’s sleep as sleep deprivation can be a trigger, especially in the early days.
- Throw a dinner party at someone’s home. Make it as fancy or simple as you want.
- If the bride enjoys board games, you could have everyone bring their favourite game to play, complete with popcorn and fizzy drinks. You could also do this with movies.
- Set up a treasure hunt (like geocaching ).
- If the weather is likely to be dry, go to a free event. For example, an event in the National Gallery then picnic in the park.
- Drive somewhere with a great walking trail and plan a hike together. Pack a special picnic and break the treats out after the hike.
- There are places where you can make a craft, do-it-yourself style for a relatively small fee. Going home with a piece of pottery or jewellery would be a fun way to remember the night.
- Escape room type games might be a good bonding experience.
- Funky Seomra run alcohol free dance events.
Is a fun alcohol free hen party possible?
Is a fun alcohol free hen party possible? Absolutely! It just takes planning, organising and a little bit of creativity.